Brightly Living

Thursday, June 18, 2020

Survivor (part 1)

Our little family started watching Survivor episodes together. We are way back in the early days of the show. But all of our kids (Perry included!) have gotten really into it. As pandemic restrictions were lifting, my cooped up kids and I started reminiscing about the summer in Washington when I had Kyler and Kacin play Survivor in the backyard for a week. They didn't even know what the show was! But they have some fun memories of living off of wild blackberries, sleeping in the tent, and challenges for donuts. We got to talking about, now that they know what the show is, how fun it would be to have another Survivor. I decided I'd much rather spend my time doing something fun for my kids and their friends instead of unpacking boxes and cleaning the house. So I got to work and used all of my creative energy to put together...

Backyard Survivor!   

Eleven hours. Twenty-two people. One Survivor.

Outwit. Outlast. Outplay.

(Thanks to Eric who was so supportive and helpful during Survivor and the few days leading up to it. How fun it was to bounce ideas off of him to put it all together.)


What started as Kyler, Kacin, and a few of their friends grew into 22 teenagers, and turning down many others who wanted to play. We will definitely have to do this again! 

Warning: this will be a looong post with lots of details, just in case we ever do decide to do this again.

All of the teens gathered at our house at 7am with swimsuits, towels, sunblock, and water bottles. We sat in the living room and I explained the rules to them. They could only come into the house to use the bathroom or refill their team's water dispenser with water and ice. They would receive a tub of team supplies for the day--that would include all of their food for the day (unless they earned it in challenges). They would start in two teams, but at some point during the day they would merge into one team. In order to win the title of sole survivor, you had to earn the most points. Points were earned for each individual on a winning team during team challenges and for the top 3 winners of individual challenges. Because Survivor is a social game, too, you can also earn points when other people voted you in as most deserving of the title of sole survivor. After team challenges, each person on the winning team could cast a vote. After individual challenges, each person could cast a vote. All the votes would be tallied at the end to determine the winner. I reminded them to have good sportsmanship, be kind and inclusive, and look out for each other. And the person who wins would walk away today as a Fiftydollaronaire!! $50 and the title of Sole Survivor.

We went into the backyard and each person randomly received a wrapped "buff." (To create the buffs, I cut strips out of material we already had around the house. Nothing fancy.) 


Each person wrote their name on our Survivor poster where we would tally points as the day went on.


Then they unwrapped their buffs one by one and were sorted into two teams--blue or green.




Green team!


Blue team!


 Have you ever watched the show survivor and seen a stark contrast between two teams? Like one team working hard, organized, and productive while the other team goofed off, laid around, and ended up under prepared for the weather and elements? Well Backyard Survivor was no different! It was ctaullay a fascinating social experiment to see what happened in these teams when left to their own. 

Each team was given a tub with a lid, a roll of duct tape, a line of rope, a jar of peanut butter, a loaf of bread, two dry ramen, two cans of spaghettios, and a pile of cardboard boxes.

The green team built a beautiful structure, decorated it, created a thoughtful team name and flag, kept their camp neat and tidy, and played get to know you games together during their free time.
 

The green team was a mess. That had a half built shelter that fell down. They were hiding people in cardboard boxes, wrestling, blasting music, and lying around in the grass during their free time.


It really was interesting to see the difference in the two teams!



About 10-15 minutes before each challenge, we delivered tree mail. 

Their first tree mail was this:


This challenge was all about teamwork. Each team had to hold onto a rope and move around the backyard to five different stations completing a task at each station. Once they completed the task they received a small ocean animal of a specific color. The first team with all five animals back on the mat won the challenge.


Each station was a different task. I used games and toys that we already had in the house to make the challenges. At this station, they had to find the right picture that matched the clues. (I used the cards from the game "Codenames: Pictures.")








At this station they had to find nine wood pieces and place them correctly on the peg board. I should've taken a picture of the toy we used, but to get an idea it was a lot like this one.


I didn't get pictures of every station because I was so busy monitoring three of the stations. But at the other stations they had to put all the pegs into a lite brite, place connect four circles into a specified pattern (I drew a simple picture), and string and spell the word "Survivor." 

Green team came in for the win! The winners got to place a social vote for who they thought was most deserving of the title of sole survivor and they got to choose a reward. They had a choice between comfort--in the form of a pop shade and camping chairs--or sweet treat--donuts. This smart team chose the comfort.


In between challenges the teams had about twenty minutes to hang out and rest before the next challenge.




The second tree mail of the day was delivered.


I explained the rules. There would be one caller from each team who would stand up on the balcony overlooking the backyard. There would be four puzzlers to solve the puzzle at the end. Everyone else would be blindfolded. The people who were blindfolded would need to collect bags with their team color. They could retrieve one bag at a time. The caller would be their eyes and tell them where to go. Once all the bags were collected, the puzzlers could run the pieces over to the mat. The first team to put their puzzle (dollar store puzzle!) together won.
 

This was one of the best challenges to watch.








There are the callers way up there.




























This time it was blue team (and Perry!) who walked away with the win. They were smart enough to remember that tree mail was actually a clue and showed them what the final puzzle should look like.




Here they are preparing to give themselves a point on the board then cast their first social point. They received the reward of donuts.


In between challenges...






Layla and Macie had a special part in Survivor. They delivered all of the tree mail and then joined whichever team or challenges they wanted to.












For this challenge, it was two vs. two on the float mat. Last person on the mat scored a point for their team. the first team to ten points won. 

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This was another FUN challenge. And made me so glad we bought this float mat for christmas. By far the best pool toy ever!!






This challenge was definitely one of the favorites of the day.



I LOVE all these teenagers. They were so patient and kind and inclusive to Perry and Layla. They cheered Perry on as he battled against Brighton. 


Perry was the winner!














After the challenge, I gave everyone just a few minutes in the pool. But then we kicked the losing team out and the winners got popsicles and some more pool team for themselves.









Backyard Survivor continued in another post soon!

Monday, June 15, 2020

bright blog changes


This little place on the internet is important to me. For almost twelve years now—twelve years!—I have documented, reflected, shared, explained, recorded, and written. All these years I have stuck to my goal of posting something at least once a week. The blog books I have created each year are the most cherished and read books by each of my kids. This place (ha, double meaning because I literally entitled my blog “This Place”) has helped me process my experiences, see the joy in motherhood and life, and focus on the good. It has helped me find meaning in the ordinary and the everyday as well as in the big life events and the challenges I have faced. It has helped me find my voice. 


First and foremost, I write on this blog for me. I write what makes me happy and helps me get through. I would continue to write even if no other person ever read a thing. I also write for my kids. I want to hold their memories for them. I want to share my testimony and my learning with them. I want them to know how much I love being their mother and raising each one of them. I want them to know I see them—I see their individual beauty, their light, their struggles, and their strength. 

But I want to also write for you. My experiences in life have already been many. I understand the day to day toll, exhaustion, yet thrill of raising a child with special needs. I understand much about autism. I understand the monthly rollercoaster and the heartache of infertility. I understand the love, the joy, and the challenges of adoption. I understand the foster care system with all of its good and bad, and the realities and pain of families torn apart because of addiction and trauma. I understand the intricacies of helping children in foster care cope and heal. I understand mental heath—the darkness of depression and the panic of anxiety. I understand pain and trauma when someone hurts or takes advantage of you. I understand breast cancer and the fear it brings and the ways it breaks you apart body, mind, and soul yet builds you into something stronger and deeper and helps you notice the beauty in all the world and the people around you. I understand the ups and downs, the pain,  the joy, the wonder, the confusion, and the beauty of this world. While I still have so very much to learn and understand, I want to use my experiences and my voice for good. 

It’s been on my mind for a really, really long time to make some changes here on this blog. Just to clean it up a bit and stuff like that. In the process, I settled on a new name for this blog—Brightly Living. A phrase that has been close to my heart for many years, since I was a teenager, is to “walk forward in the brightness of hope.” And that’s what I intend to do. I want to live my life in a way that seeks the good and the light and overcomes the difficult and the dark. I want to live a life of joy and growth. I want to go forward brightly living and learning. 

(The blog will be a little messy this week as I finish making changes to the look and layout.)

Sunday, June 14, 2020

smiles and twirls

This may turn into another Brinna post.


But can you ever have too many posts about the cutest 2 year old??

No, I think not.


This one starts with some smiles and dance moves. 


Twirl and twirl!


When we were helping my parents move, Layla helped my mom sort through some stuff. She came home with all sorts of treasures, one of them being some vintage clothes for Layla to use on her dolls. Layla was thrilled when she realized her favorite doll (her real life version--little miss Brinna) would fit into some of the dresses. Like this one. Certainly from the 80s. Brinny was adorable in it.




On a separate morning, Perry was reading a pirate abc book that he loves. He shared it with Brinna and they had a special moment together. 




Perry loves being a big brother to Brinn with all of his heart.


Their relationship is a special one.


We unpacked a few more boxes and found some bubble wrap. I left Brinna playing with it and when I came back into the room someone had fashioned her a dress. hmmm.


I just don't know. But she loved her new outfit and there were more twirls.


My parents stayed with us for a few days in between homes and Brinna loved having Grammy and Papa here. She loved running down the hallway to their room to play with them. And to take care of them. By making sure they kept their face masks on. haha


We met up with some of her sweet friends for a "hike" and to feed the ducks and chase the bunnies. It's already getting too hot for early morning outings like this (boo to the intense heat), but the girls had fun "hiking" together so I'm glad we did it.

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

escape room 5: Paradox Escape Room **

Eric and I tried out an escape room in downtown Gilbert for date night—Paradox Escape Room.  



We played the Caskwerks and Capone Room. Using my own escape room rating system here, we gave it 2 stars. But if I could give it one and a half stars, I would probably do that.  It was rated a 7/10 for difficulty. It was pretty linear. There were a couple of fun elements and puzzles. But there were a couple of things that seemed unrelated to anything else and more confusing than puzzling (for example, a type of wooden locking puzzle box that we had never seen. The box itself was cool, but the combination was unrelated to the box and didn't really connect to the element in the room). We ended up getting a couple clues without asking and we asked for one clue. There was some math in the game, but they gave you a calculator and a notepad and pen (it was some serious math!). We finished with over ten minutes to spare. Overall, we had a lot of fun and Paradox Escape Rooms is a place we will be back to. We are looking forward to trying the other rooms there.


Sunday, June 7, 2020

Mountain Mama adventures

It's been so fun to find a group of women who are willing and able to get outdoors for some adventures! We have gone out hiking and paddle boarding a few different times. 




I love connecting with nature and with good people. We have had some conversations that have been so very healing for me. This time out has become a highlight of each week.













Jen and I even got out one morning.






Eric has had some of his own "mountain men/mountain teenager" adventures. He has been out mountain biking a bit and then this group went and hiked "The Jug."

Thursday, June 4, 2020

baking girls

My girls stepped into the kitchen to do some baking.



After I exercised, before I showered, with our kitchen all chaotic, but they were both extremely excited to be making cupcakes.


Brinna was living her dream with that ladle and cake pan. And she mostly got the batter right where it needed to go!


Viola! Beautiful cupcake creations by Layla.


Clearly, no cupcake was shorted any sprinkles. 


Nice job, girls!