Rocky Point 2020

It’s cold outside (by Arizona standards). Layla and Brinna and I put on coats to walk Layla to school now. And we debate about whether or not the cold hands and face is worth the walk or if we should just drive to school. We dream of warmer days, yet we keep walking.

All those dreams of warmth send me back to the beach. Specifically, Rocky Point, Mexico over fall break. 

Sun, swimsuits, and salt water...fall break seems so long ago!


This year we headed down to mexico with two other families. The first night we got there and our campsites were set up, I walked by this scene and got so excited to be in such a beautiful place with good people.

We hit the beach first thing in the morning.

We decided to try something we've never done before... cornrows for everyone!

Well, at least most of the girls had their hair braided and we convinced one of my boys.

Brinn actually loves to get her hair done (unlike her sister:) ).

Yep, Kacin's hair was long enough for cornrows!

These two are some of my all time favorite pictures of him. That's his real smile right there.

I think he was regretting the mullet he gave himself soon before the trip because it meant his hair was too short to be braided. Sad.


Whether braids or curls this guy here is my hair twin.

The water was so very calm and perfectly warm. We brought the paddle boards and kayaks this year to add to the fun and water tricks.

All the braided hair girls right here.

Brinn is in heaven at the beach. She loves the water, the sand, and the waves.

She showed me how she can touch her feet to her head. And then Kyler tipped her over and she yelled at him.

It may look like a whale out in the water...

But that was just where the teenagers escaped from the heat and played a game of "big booty" (the game where you sing the song then call out your number without messing up).

We all took rides on the banana boat. I'm glad I ended up on the kid ride with Brinna. I was perfectly content with that. Though I know all of the adults and big kids had fun getting thrown from the boat again and again.

Eric and I tried to go out for a walk every evening and morning.

Is there anything better than a beach sunset?

I love the golden hour at the beach.

And I do love this family of mine.

That sunset!


Does she know how lucky she is to have these big brothers?

Pretty impressive boys...

Kyler!




Another day, another morning walk with our girls.

Another day of cornrows gone wild.


The girls spent a lot of time finding and playing with sea critters.

I didn't get a picture, but my favorite time of the whole trip was probably taking the paddleboard out first thing in the morning on the clam waters. We went out so far and the water was clear and beautiful. It was so peaceful.

These boys did a lot of beach digging.

They made themselves a hot tub.

Eric and I did a lot of reflecting together on our growth and changes over the last year. And we took a lot of selfies, too.

My little boy! He loves his sodas still.

These are the two ladies who were there with us. It is always nice to get to know people better and sharing a campsite with someone for a few days does just that. I admire so many things about each one of these women. So grateful for a few days to have fun with our families together!

These two did some haggling on the beach and scored a deal on sunglasses.

We met up with a friend who was staying at the resort. Then we found out that Kacin and Kyler's seminary teacher was coming to stay with them the next day. So we arranged it so that the teens could go down and sneak up on them and surprise their seminary teacher. Apparently, there was also a $5 reward from another seminary teacher to the first person who 5 starred him. These boys accepted the challenge. They ran up to Lotze and pushed him in the pool water! He got them back by pulling Kacin in, too. They had a blast meeting up with their awesome seminary teacher.

We went down to the market to shop around.




We promised Perry he could pick out some candy. Weeeellll, one of the covid rules in mexicos is that children could not go into stores. That was a hard rule for these kids. And really tricky to figure out which mexican candy to get Perry when he couldn't go in to see anything! In the end, we found him some gummy worms.

The sunset on our last night was literally FIRE.

Look at those unfiltered colors!

We enjoyed the smoke bombs and fireworks that the boys bought at the market.

more fire tricks...

I'm glad these two had each other to hang with all week.

sisters and friends....










Other highlights/lowlights from the trip:

-two nights of delicious churros!

-getting our floating mat stolen but recovering it from some people down the beach

-time to rest

-yummy tortillas

-poor communication between teens and parents

-getting photos deleted from my phone by the mexican border police

-Brinna and Perry's fair skin sunburns

-Perry loved sleeping with the boys his age in their tent

-we rented a trailer for our family which was convenient and helpful , especially with Brinns at this age

WE LOVE ROCKY POINT! Seriously this is becoming such a happy place for our family. So glad we made it during fall break for the second year in a row. And so glad to share the trip with these people!

(music video still in progress)

thanksgiving feast

It was a happy thanksgiving that left our both our hearts and bellies full.

We were grateful for dear friends, new friends, and family to share the day with.

We were excited to get to host this year. We gathered up tables from around the house and found seating for everyone. We did not have enough matching spoons, even for the adult table (where did all my spoons disappear to??), but we did have enough seats and for that I was truly happy about.

Each of my children played a part in setting the tables in our "fancy" way. I love working side by side with my kids on stuff like this to figure out how to fold napkins, arrange flowers, iron placemats, etc. 

We didn't think to snap a picture until the children had their fill and disappeared from the tables. But the food was amazing!!! Everyone contributed and it turned out so yummy and my belly was FULL.

 

The boys consumed video games while the girls worked hard to create a play to perform for us.

THere was some very good acting in their performance of "the Lost Princess."

The audience was thoroughly entertained.

As we sat around the Thanksgiving table, Mandi asked each of us to say something we are grateful for but it had to be something superficial. It was hard to just pick one honestly. I said my comfortable bed, but I am also grateful for

hair ties, shampoo, conditioner, good smelling soap, Wet brushes, hot showers, laundry baskets, carpet, scissors, sharpie pens, journals, maps and globes, dishwashers, washing machines, dryers, a rack to hand clothes, my steamer, a good vacuum, bracelets, rings, a curl straightener brush, makeup, good smelling laundry soap, good shoes, pretty sandals, yoga pants, running shorts, hiking fanny packs, paddleboards, pillows, children's art, snacks, movie theater popcorn...

I could go on for ages! Because the truth is even when I think some things in my life are crappy or not what I wanted or hoped they would be, even when those things are hard and frustrating, if I stop and slow down and notice all of the good in my life, man I have been blessed beyond measure. There are so many tangible things, so much beauty in nature, so many people, so many gifts, talents, skills, so many things to enjoy with my five senses---what a wonderful world!

I hope you can see that, too. It takes time and a little bit of effort, but notice all the good--the smallest things and the big things and everything in between and you will see that you have a beautiful life, too. Not a perfect life. Not an easy life. But a beautiful life. 

give thanks

 "Counting our blessings is far better than recounting our problems. No matter our situation, showing gratitude is a fast-acting and long-lasting spiritual prescription." -Russell M. Nelson

Gratitude: seeing the good, feeling appreciation and love, reframing the negative to notice the positives, swelling hearts, finding peace and joy that no one can take from you

I have so many blessings. So do you. I'm certain many of our blessings are the same. Yet many are quite different. We both know some of these joys. But some of them I have and you yearn for. Some other things you have and I yearn for. 

Filling our hearts with gratitude and counting our blessings--focusing in on the good that surrounds us--can replace the things that weigh us down with deep joy.

I used to feel so guilty to receive help from others. By the end of my cancer treatments, my list was LONG of all the people that had served us and all the ways we had been lifted. I felt guilty that someone would "have" to watch Brinna or "have" to make us a meal or "have" to give one of my kids a ride. You know what though, we needed that help. There was no way around that. So instead of guilt and feeling bad, I've been learning to replace those feelings with deep gratitude for all the people and all the ways. Instead of feeling "I'm sorry you had to help me," I realize what I really feel is "Thank you so much for helping me. I appreciate it with all my heart."

One of my favorite stories that completely shifted my way of thinking was by Corrie Ten Boom. As prisoners in a concentration camp during nazi ruled Germany, Corrie and her sister looked around in dismay and horror at their barracks. Conditions were unimaginable and Corrie wondered how they could live like this--especially with all the fleas. Corrie's sister adopted an attitude of humility and gratitude. She gave thanks for everything around her. She tried to seek the good that could come and offer thanksgiving to her heavenly father, even for those fleas. Oh, I'm sure this was not easy! There is nothing easy about offering thanks to God in your prayers for the fleas that cover your bed. But over time, they learned that because of those fleas they actually ended up getting even greater freedom to talk together and minister to each other and read the Bible because the guards and supervisor refused to come in due to those fleas!

This last year or so, I have been weighed down by so many things. I have felt intense pain. I have felt discouraged and depressed. But what has helped me to keep going was to stop and notice all the good around me, to recognize the good that is coming from all those things that bring me pain, and then to let myself feel gratitude for these experiences and for all the little and big blessings in my life.

Our prophet encouraged us to use social media as a gratitude journal for one week. I have recently given myself more social media boundaries that I feel strongly that I need to stick to. It just wasn't the time for me to be posting daily. However, I have been following his counsel in other ways. I have been trying to be more deliberate about filling my thoughts and heart with thanksgiving. I am taking time in my thoughts to notice blessings all around me. I have been trying to be more specific about those things I am grateful for in my prayers. I am just increasing my gratitude little by little. And you know what, seeing all the things in my life that I can give thanks for does help me feel lighter and more at peace.

I learned a lot by reading other people's instagram posts of thanksgiving. There were many heartfelt posts that opened my eyes and richly blessed me. But it was also really triggering for me to see so many posts of things that I righteously yearn, wish, desire, or just plain feel jealous of. I have to keep myself in check and remind myself that I have blessings, too. They might be different than someone else's but that is ok. We are different. We have different struggles and different blessings. Good in one person's life does not mean my life is bad. There is enough good for all of us to enjoy. We can celebrate how blessings are different and varied! Our Heavenly Father knows us individually and gives us individual experiences. And he loves variety! So it makes sense that we do not all have the same. We all have struggles of some sort. But let's be glad of each other's blessings!!

Things that I give thanks for:

-my pain and my trials because they have helped me develop greater compassion and growth and deeper connection 

-the safety and comfort of our beautiful home and neighborhood

-the sky! the hope of the rising sun, the clouds, the colors of the sunset, the stars, the moon. I feel closest to God when gazing up at the sky

-mountains, rivers, oceans, and lakes because of their beauty and their fun and the ways that I can move and adventure in them

-my Eric who has helped me to heal mentally, emotionally, and physically. His care, compassion, and patience (great patience!). 

-the safety and connection from a marriage you have worked for

-Kyler, Kacin, Perry, Layla, and Brinna! They are my light, my peace, my teachers, my hope, my joy, and my heart 

-texting, marco polo, facetime, instagram, blogging, an awesome camera on my phone because of the ways these things allow me to connect and learn from others

-angels on earth and angels in heaven

-the small, personal ways that God reminds me He is there and He knows me and will always help me

-words! to read and write and express myself and learn from

-movement! moving my body through dance, hiking, walking, swimming, etc helps me express my emotions and work through my worries and anxiety

-a body that teaches me that I have limits AND I am strong. 

-my sense of sight, taste, smell, hearing, and touch because of the ways each sense uniquely allows me to richly experience the world. 

-music that fills my soul and body and expresses all of the fun, love, pain, joy, beauty, etc of life

-modern medicine and good doctors to keep me ALIVE and healthy

-deep breaths in and out

-my gift of discernment that I am learning to recognize and trust

-clothes that are comfortable, clean, and help me express myself or ready myself for the things I do and experience

-professional counseling and emdr to help me process trauma

-vulnerability and honesty. some of the greatest ways I have connected, learned, and grown is because either I or others around me have allowed themselves to be open and true.

-the holy ghost! I need the inspiration, comfort, and truth the spirit brings into my life each day

-my Savior who knows me and has suffered for me and brings me peace

I feel like this list is really just the tip of the iceberg! I have SO much to be thankful for when I stop and think about it. 

I give thanks to God for allowing me to live this rich, purposeful life! There is bad on this earth and in our lives, but there is so much more good!!